Monday, May 30, 2011

Mothers need to Burry their daughters before their death...

i never thought i wud be saying this ...

But i wish my mother cud really bury me now... its a saying when ur daughter reaches an age of marriage parrents shud send her to her home... bury her...

Now i fully undertsand wat it means... and why it was emphasized...

It means dont keep ur heart in her, or u shall be making her life tough for her... when u let her go and be on her own u not only give her the space and life which is her due right but u also are able to keep away from worries which are never something useful or beneficial to have...

And you cannot burry ur soul until u trust God is there to help her and protect her better then even u cud...and that she will be able to solve all the problems that she somehow gets on her table just like u did... remember... and also it is wise to let ur daughter and son deal with their own troubles rather then u hanging around their doors trying to oush in as soon as ur mind suggests her husband or wife have raised a hand on them....

Remember they chose themselves to be in the situation with all that u have already given in terms of , knowledge faith and wisdom, now unless they come forward themselves... u have no need to get involved... for anything behind that door is a business and a trust they shudnt break... for a news going outside a husband home... is a trust broken... such is the sacred relation of marriage if done with love and knowledge the institution has...

Unless u in ur own knwoledge understand u r being treated unjustly... u always have a door to come out of that institution...

But to discuss things to outsiders with a hope to get an answer will never suffice...

Relying on others to decide ur fate is the lowest category of faith possible... for faith is wat u firmly beleive with closed eyes and dont need a second opinion ever for...

In Rasulallahs time ppl reached out to Rasulallah when faced with a delimma... Who do u have in ur times...?

I have u maula... the only source... but even coming to u without asking permission of my husband is wrong...so before i will ever enter a wedlock i will ensure he understands ur place in my life and wud agree that when in doubt u will be the one who will decide... if he wont agree i wont marry him... But then wasnt that alwyas the first thing which i emphasized whenever i thot abt someone for wedding even him....He doesnt beleive in u... and that is the reason why we are unable to be together... as soon as he does there wont be anyone more happy then me...:) till then i wish him well and i wait for his return to u prior to me...:)

1 comment:

  1. You're getting married to someone whom you do not want to get married to? =/

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