Define your Problems as Goals

Your problems are those undesired things in your life which you want to get rid off as soon as possible. Its like those stones that keep coming in your path and try to knock u down, make u feel sad, pained and uncomfortable. Thinking about them makes you grow serious glum, annoyed, irritated, frustrated, angered unhappy, or thoughtful. Your mind either is focused on how difficult your life is with this problem and how by anyway possible you can get it done. Some of these problems already have a solution. You know the solution but u r too lazy and unwilling, or incapable of taking those actions. Sometimes how ever you cannot solve it on your own and need outside help. Whether or not your solution is clear to you, you are always clear about one thing. What you want? What needs to be done? where you want to see yourself past that problem? And that beautiful happy, secure realization is called the GOAL. The end result. And to get there you must be willing to do all that is required, and that part is called the Acheivement. Problems can be visible. Anyone can see them.. they are as clear as the day. Problems can be invisible. No body other then you know about them. No one can even guess what eating you from inside... but none the less there is a serious problem, which you have been trying to fight / living with since the day it was conceived. But what ever those problems or hurdles are, its much easier to tackle them and get around them when you list them in terms of a goal. So if your problem is He doesn’t want to marry me... Your focus should be on how to convince him to marry you. “Convince him to marry you” then becomes your goal and “How” is the way you and solutions and options and possibilities you will need to work on in order to reach that Goal. My acne is so bad. Its a huge problem Even though its a true observation... it does little to get you to solve it. So your focus should be on How can I get rid of it; where “How “would be the WAY and “Get rid of Acne” would be your GOAL and the more you could focus on the two... the less your acne will remain a problem for u. Use this trick to all your problems, and problems will not be a problem any more.

Movie Time: Love Comes Softly

Best Pieces clark to Marty : The truth of Gods love is not that he allows bad things to happen.. Its his promise to help you there with it. Missy: i am tired of trying, its too hard , besides i don't need to read anyhow... Marty: ok fine... Missy : you dont care if i dont do it Marty: no, not if u dont like adventures Missy : what do u mean no adventures Marty: Once you can read you can have every adventure you ever dreamed of. and those pages there is no limit to where you can go or what u can be! Missy: (motivated) I dont think it wud hurt if i try a bit more:D

Clark: Dear Lord you couldn't have brought more to my life i don't always understand your plans but i ask you, please share it with me this time.. please help me accept it. Old Lady: We are just lucky to leave this god forsaken part of the country Marty: i wouldn't call it God forsaken Old Lady:Horrible snow storms Marty: Beautiful sunsets Old Lady: A woman has to be crazy to stay or in love Clark: Why a man comes after a woman, its that simple. Marty:: I need a good reason to stay.. Clark: stay cuz i love you. Marty: well i will stay cuz i love you... Clark:yeh thats a good reason!:)

It is you, it was always you:) It will always be you!

And you were but a lie! Forgiven and forgotten!

Learning new things everyday!:D

I was feeling bored, waiting for my online friends... but they were all busy...

Today is a day i fear the most, when nothing interesting is there... that i look forward to... not even the Drama or a movie i can watch to fill the empty hours.

People ask me to start teaching, but i think its boring for me... and i think i save kids some sanity, which an insane person like me can never bring to them...

So as i refreshedf my FB page the tenth time in a row... a quote got my attention.


"Education is not about boring classrooms, rote learning and tedious schedules, its about getting to know new things, understand them and enjoy the experience.
So according to you, what are the ways that you can make education interesting?"


its about getting to know new things, understand them and enjoy the experience.

i am sure as soon as you all will read this sentence, your motivation and curiosity and interest will rise... you will feel blood rushing back into ur face and heart...thats exactly wat happened...

and then i thot to myself when was it that i tried or learned something new... and recalling my school days... was i really being taught something new... and exciting...was i really experiencing something new...

and wat i felt was... even though may be i was... some of the teachers and their motivation level, made me feel every day was same... dull boring and full of punishments... on lessons not being turned up or something always being not as expoected by her... no matter how much the teacher failed to be as we expected her to be...

Her disappointments led us to punsihments... wat abt our disappointment... oh... yeah... we were not allowed to be disaapointed... it wasnt our place to have any expectations... but to meet expectations of our parrents and teachers..and most of the time... failing them...

though my parrents were linent... and loved us regardless... my over intelligent and sensitive self... cud read it in their eyes... and in the eyes of those countless people i met every day... and i so wished i was in a place where i was ok and good and admired just the way i was...

But not pondering more on... all that...

i Got this nice idea...to learn something new every day... read abt it, experiment with it and then summarize it all here on the blog...no matter how little it is...

so wat can be the things that wud be new to me...

making a wrong call and doing wat those guys do... harass someone...:) juts for fun... i have never dared doing that...

reading abt a phenomenon...

learning a skill or craft

making a concept of an ad... (it can be creative)

trying a new recipe...

i know these are very easy ones... one i can do in the cacoon of my home...

and wat wud really make me feel happy is going out of this cocoon and trying soemthing extremely daring...

like skydiving

scuba diving

going to india and following salman khan. making him spend a day with me...

ask madhuri to teach me ik do teen dance

drive a plane

be an airhostess for one day

act in a movie (bolly wood)

learn belly dance, salsa, ice skating

do all these crazy things before i hit my 40s

and try as many ideas as cross my mind...

and then when i am done with all these controversial things ... get married to someone who loves me just as much as i love him... and give all i can to my family...

The end!:D

Haris!

you give me a responsibility i wasnt born for... but since u asked i took it with all my heart but i am not able to do much... though unlike ... those who expect me to perform... my underperformance in this case only gets a bit of scolding from u... and then realisation and doing somethng sweet to replenish my lost faith in this! the truth is this fated coincidence is giving me that reason which i had lost for past 1 year, all i need is that we both come out fine from this momentary bad phase we both are going through with flying colors:) as we support and strengthen each other:)

Book Dedication!

I am writing a book dedication to Salman Khan...:)

Its half way through!

i plan to write 6-8 chapters.

i am on the 4th one...

This book wont have copies... just one copy which i shall post to him.

But if he likes it and wud agree to send out more copies may be you all will be lucky to read it too:)

But if this works i have one more dedication to make...

to my favorite lady... Madhuri!

:D

Hope all is well with you all!

Have a lovely day, night:)

Cheers

Love!

I love you!

I dream of you on some night, but in all of them you seem far away, unacheivable, i am this close to u... but the gulf between us seems endless...

in my day dreams how ever i get u as close as i want...

in reality... u r out there... far far away from me...

were we both meant to live alone... never to have anyone other then each other by our sides yet not having the strength and courage to be there for each other!:)

I used to feel sad abt it now... i can smile abt it...

its been a long time since i cried over losing u... being away from u... now i am getting used to it... all now i feel is love for u... and distrust of coming close and being asked to leave once again... the pain of which i cant bear... so i will never come that close again.

But love will always be here!